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Thursday Update: 03/20/08

We officially closed on the sale of our old house yesterday!!! YAHOO!! It feels so good to have that piece of the puzzle finally completed! I met with the bank this week to talk about our options for the mortgage on the new house and hopefully we can close and get that wrapped up next week. While I’m not really looking forward to the bigger mortgage…it is sooo worth it!!! Plus, I just got a promotion at my job so the extra money will help with that too! It really feels like things are falling in to place…and again I feel so grateful.

Last night was my first evening/night alone in the house. Mom left yesterday morning. I just have to say…she was great. Having her there meant so much to me, especially since Matt was gone. To me, there is no one like my mom. She knows just how to help me out, and I appreciate it so much. I came home from work Monday night and she had been to the store and was fixing supper. We had spent much of last week eating fast food here and there and it was so nice to finally sit down and have a home cooked meal! (And I’ve been enjoying the leftovers all week). She had even taken Buddy outside for me so I could just come home and relax! Mom – thank you so much for your help, your support, your unconditional love even when I’m snippy, crabby, or unreasonably anal. I could not have made it through these past few weeks without you!!

Surprisingly, I slept well last night! I spent the evening organizing bathroom stuff and just continuing to put things away, while Steve and Buddy followed me around lounging in whichever room I was in. I can tell they are both acclimating themselves nicely to the new house. Steve is finding all kinds of nice places to sprawl out and I know he’ll love the sunny living room during the day. Buddy did fine all day yesterday and is adjusting to me walking him just fine. He’s been SO good, but I will be happy when Penny can come home too!

I talked to Matt last night and things are going well there. He said that they started exercising in the new gym and he sent me some pictures of it. He said he was hot, because there is a big sky light in the gym…but of course the helpers are always cold. I don’t know what they would think of our winter temperatures here!
Matt’s been working on the bike, the Cybex machine, and doing leg extensions. At first the helpers put less weight on his right leg, assuming it was weaker, but Matt wouldn’t have that! He was eventually able to convince them that his right leg could handle the weight like the left…lack of strength has never really been his problem. He’s been working on tossing a ball, and they have him shooting at a basket…but he hasn’t been able to make any yet. Although, he does think he has more control when throwing. Mary is going to buy him some granola bars to munch on when he gets a meal he doesn’t like. Apparently he had a pork chop this week that had some bones in it…which of course creeped him out! He also ordered BBQ beef…and described it as more like vegetable soup with BBQ sauce and sweet potatoes in it. MMM. It makes me feel good that Mary is there to help him out though, taking care of him like that…how wonderful!! Matt also said Bob is driving him a little nuts…but who wouldn’t after being around each other so much? Little things like the way he eats bug Matt! HA! But Matt also said that he has never felt so much like a handicapped person as he does there…that Bob won’t let him do anything. It’s such a contradiction from the way he has been treated here – learning to do everything he can on his own and be independent. I told him to speak to the China Connection representative about it and I would also send a message. Bob should be there to help with the things Matt can’t do, and keep him safe from falling…but Matt can and should still be able to do the things he manages on his own. Just last night I could hear Bob trying to get Matt to get off the phone so he could take him to exercise, even though they still had 10 minutes before he had to be there. Matt just needs to be more assertive and tell them what he does and doesn’t want…after all, we’re paying for Bob. Hopefully they can get that worked out soon, so he doesn’t feel quite so smothered.

Overall though, Matt’s attitude is still good. He’s still feeling like he is in the right place and working hard to be patient and trust. The doctors want to focus their acupuncture on his vision and tremor, so we’ll see what happens! He thinks maybe the tremor is a little better and he is able to calm it down when having treatments a little better than before, so that’s good! Matt was blown away by all the help we had with the move and wishes we could buy you all steak dinners! Just know that your help eased his worry, and he is also very thankful.

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