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Thursday Update: 05/25/06

FINALLY…NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Matt is approved to go to QLI Omaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I finally got all the details worked out with insurance and QLI yesterday. Matt will be able to go there for 98 days, under my benefit. We are so excited, and so nervous…it just opens up all kinds of questions and worries…mostly just of the unknown. We discussed possible admit dates and finally agreed that it made more sense to wait until after his embolization procedure in June. So, we will be coming home from IA City on the 10th, and heading to Omaha on the 12th! We were talking last night…and 98 days would take him past his birthday (September 9th) and he wants to be home for that…so even though it’s far out there, we’re thinking he’ll come home on September 8th. That’s what we’re HOPING for, anyway!

We’re happy we can wait a few more weeks, until after the procedure, to get going. That’ll give us time to get organized, figure out what we need to bring, and prepare for this big change. It will be the first time that Matt hasn’t had me there to care for him throughout the day, and he’s nervous about that. We’ve grown comfortable, of course, so it’s going to be a whole new ball game for him…and for me.

The house he will be in will feel sort of like living in a dorm. He will have his own room, and may share a bathroom with another person. He will participate in preparing the meals with the other residents of the house, and will also be working 6 + hours/day in therapy!!! It won’t all be traditional, structured PT, OT, and Speech like he’s been used to…they will work on everyday life skills as well. They go out into the community a lot too, to work on those everyday activities and functions. I’m so excited for Matt to have the opportunity to really work hard and make good gains. Everyone there is excited to have him come.

Many of Matt’s therapists over the months have said how they wished they could spend more time working with him…that he is such a hard worker, so motivated, and so driven. They just love being able to work with him. It is my hope that all the new therapists he’ll be working with in Omaha will feel the same way, and get to expand on the time they work with him. I am excited to the possibility of positive results! We are so blessed for this chance…I pray that it makes a big difference in Matt’s recovery.

So, be thinking of us over these next few weeks. It will be a time of preparation, and a time of change. It is going to be very hard for us to be separated…we are so close, and such a team. It will be hard for me to give him over to others for fulltime care and companionship. It will be hard…but it will be worth it.

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